Essential For Hypnotherapy Training - Abandon the Script

Just this week, I found myself in one of those unenviable situations. One of those situations that we dread occurring in social circumstances - Being trapped by someone we find boring!

I know what you are thinking "Surely he is not suggesting someone was boring. Surely he is far too evolved to think such unkind thoughts." I may be putting you off hypnotherapy training unless I remedy this fast!

Hey, come on, I am human too - sometimes I need someone to ignite some fuses in my brain. Sometimes I need stimulation too! Sometimes I do encounter someone that may seem a bit dull at the time. Maybe he was just having a bad day. Why am I telling you this on a hypnotherapy training article? Let me explain.

The point I want to make is that I became lazy and easily distracted and found my eyes and mind wandering all over the place when this chap was talking to me. I realised what was happening and felt awful. It is so unattractive, unappealing and says so much about you at the unconscious level when you are not paying attention. So I set my mind to it, brought my awareness in and found rapport developing quicker than I had first anticipated. I think any hypnotherapy training school should make sure all the students on their hypnotherapy training diploma's pay much more attention to their clients!

One of the biggest challenges for many of us when communicating in social circumstances, business environments or anywhere else (therapy room included!), is to give someone your absolute, uninterrupted attention. Where your attention is 100%. Being truly attentive is attractive, it helps you develop rapport, it sends many positive signals and aids any communication.

That is one of the reasons I have issues with hypnotherapists and hypnotists continually referring to scripts! How can you be paying attention to anything else if you are reading a script? How connected are you actually being to your client? Do you really need to attend a good hypnosis training or a quality hypnotherapy training diploma to learn to read a script?

You see, so often, outwardly we may appear to be listening to the individual we are communicating with, (even if they are not speaking, there is much to listen to) though internally we may be guessing what they are thinking, jumping to conclusions, considering our response, making assumptions or daydreaming - as I was in the example I opened up with.

If we do not keep pulling our awareness inwards, our minds can simply board any passing express train of thought. Our thoughts can distract us, cloud our minds and block our receptivity to what is actually going on - we may miss out on a wide variety of levels, when there is richness in every communication for us to behold.. Including when we are conducting hypnosis in any form. This needs to be learnt at the hypnotherapy training level in my opinion.

I recall a time when I was at a networking breakfast meeting and I had not fully woken up and found myself embroiled in small talk with three members of the meeting while we were waiting to be seated for breakfast. I was aroused to find them all staring at me expectantly. They were waiting to a reply from a question I had been asked when my mind had wandered far, far off to a galaxy far away. Very embarrassing.

Have you ever done something similar? Have you been listening to someone and found yourself asking, 'Sorry, what was that you just said?' How unattractive, rude, and inconsiderate. What does that say about you to the other person? You would certainly not expect something similar from a hypnotherapist who had undergone extensive hypnotherapy training, would you?

I can remember reading about Zen Masters that used to come up behind their students and smack them hard on the head. The purpose of which was to remind the students that they weren't present or truly aware of what was going on around them at that moment. If they had been, they would have noticed and been able to move out of the way, or even avoid such an approach being made.

Now I am not going to suggest that you tell your friends and family to start creeping around and attempt to wallop you on the head to keep you on your toes, instead, use one of many, many methods that are out there and documented to give you an alternative way to focus your attention and stop it wandering rudely off and giving a bad impression to whoever you may be communicating with.

MIlton Erickson went into trance with clients and patients. I do too. As do many of the greatest hypnotists I know. Good hypnotherapy training courses teach this notion. Such a state allows you to be inherently aware of what is right, what is going on with the person you are working with and so on. It is a eep focus that is a joy to experience. Do you think renowned hypnotherapist Erickson ever read a script while hypnotising?

Many people tell me that they find it difficult to pay attention and that when they attempt to do so, it is almost stressful and creates anxiety. This is demonstrating that they are focusing on their thoughts and not placing their attention on the individual they are concerned with.

Paying attention also means being relaxed. When you correctly pay attention, you are not thinking about what is going to happen, you are not thinking about what has happened before, you are just there, in the present, as things are happening. That way you get pure information, you connect with the individual and on the unconscious level, you are making yourself more pleasing - whether it is as a therapist, a colleague or friend. What's more, you are much more likely to come up with a good, appropriate and relevant response to their communication.

Then you rely on yourself to deliver good solutions from your hypnotherapy training based on your knowledge, understanding and hypnotic language skills (if you do not have those skills, then practice them!). Not read a script! Any Tom, Dick or Harry can do that. Why would you pay for the service of having someone read to you?

I'm sure you'd agree that it's nice to be appreciated, listened to and given warmth. How many scripts offer up felt warmth? Pah!

Scripts are useful to read, learn from and develop understanding and ideas from. Scripts are someone else's language. They do not respond or necessarily resonate with your client. Even if you write them yourself, they are still a blanket approach. Even if you wrote it specifically for that client. The script does not resonate with the moment they are in or the experience they are having. You would not even know what experience they are having if you are reading. Heck, I am going to go the whole hog and say that if a hypnotherapist read them to a client, then, their hypnotherapy training can't have been that good.

Adam is a best selling author and trainer. Please visit his website for further information on his hypnotherapy training and to receive your free, instantly downloadable hypnosis session: http://www.adam-eason.com/seminars/hypnotherapy-diploma/

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